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Posted by on Oct 8, 2017 in Divorce, Family Law | 0 comments

Explaining America’s High Divorce Numbers

It’s an oft-cited statistic, but it’s worth putting it up here again to start this article: 50 percent of marriages end in divorce. That’s, of course, one in every two. Such a high percentage cannot be good for a society, and it’s worth looking at here different ways to lower that number.

Here are a few important facts to keep in mind. The divorce rate for those who get college degrees is lower by 13 percent. The divorce rate for those whose parents remained married is lower by 13 percent. The divorce rate for those who wait until at least 25 to get married is lower by 24 percent.

Put all those numbers together, and a solution becomes far clearer. For those who have stable parents at home, graduate from college, and marry a bit later, the odds they will get divorced are significantly lower. Just those three factors would change America’s damning divorce statistic, and it would likely have a continuing impact beyond.

Consider, for instance, not just growing up with two parents but living in a community where most families had two parents. This is the reality for many parts of our country, and in those communities, divorce is significantly less common.

That doesn’t mean it doesn’t occur. There are still divorces, and there are still ugly contested divorces. It’s impossible to keep everyone from making bad decisions or coming to inevitable breaking points, after all. The numbers, however, are far better than for the country as a whole.

In contrast, look at areas with high divorce rates, and the exact opposite trends become clear. People get married early and then get remarried. The get divorce after divorce. In fact, the likelihood of a second divorce is much higher than the likelihood of getting a divorce in the first place. At this point, it should not be shocking at all to find out that in those areas with the highest divorce rates, people get married younger and they have less education.

The solution to America’s problem is, then, obvious but incredibly complicated (as most systemic problems are). To lower the divorce rate, an effort must be made to encourage parents to stay together now, to push children to get higher education and to further encourage them to wait to get married. The fact that some parts of our culture have achieved this while others lag behind is perhaps more a sign of the wide divide between classes that have become the norm across America.

After all, in accomplishing a lowering of the divorce rate, America would almost have to achieve many of its other long-term goals: bringing a larger percentage of people into the working class, raising the percentage of college-educated adults, and probably lowering crime rates.

All of those are wonderful goals but are also incredibly difficult to achieve. Until there are better ideas for how to attack America’s deepest problems, unfortunately, the divorce rate is likely to remain high. If you should find yourself in the unfortunate situation of getting a divorce, I did come across a law firm that can help you out called The Maynard Law Firm, PLLC. They seem to have a lot of compassion for their clients and can steer you in the right direction. It’s important to be prepared for any type of situation in life, even those that are tough to get through.

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Posted by on Jul 20, 2015 in Family Law | 0 comments

Marriage Issues

Every marriage faces challenges. Yet for some couples, these challenges prove to be so extreme they are preventing their potential for all future happiness. In these situations, couples have two options. Many choose to go to marriage counseling to try and work through their feelings and reach a place of mutual understanding and happiness that they once knew. The other option many couples pursue, often if marriage counseling does not prove to be effective is a divorce. Divorce involves the complete separation of those involved. In either of these paths, it is important to seek the help of a trusted professional.

According to the website of marriage counselor Kathleen Snyder, signs that you and your partner may want to consider seeking marriage counseling are: that communication has deteriorated, you experience feelings of loneliness, someone has had an affair, you overly fantasize about being with someone else, small issues lead to big arguments, the marriage always seems to focus on negativity. Marriage counseling can prove to be very effective in resolving these issues and getting a marriage back to a place of happiness.

While marriage counseling has proven to be extremely helpful for some relationships, it is not always a long term solution. Sometimes, couples discover that they are better off leading separate lives. This can be a complicated process. According to the website of Houston divorce attorneys Holmes, Diggs & Sadler, “so many aspects of a couple’s life together are examined during the separation, including property, finances, and a child, so each divorce process is unique.” Every couple has their own unique situation that leads to a divorce. Some divorces are amicable while others are emotionally charged with anger and hurt feelings. In either of these cases, it is important to attempt to remain as civil as possible. Marriage counseling did not prove to be the best option, yet couples undergoing a divorce should still seek to empathize and understand the others feelings so that the process can be a non-combative as possible.

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